It's been awhile since we've seen Lisa and Charles together. Well, I now know why. Apparently, they are having serious marital issues. Lisa has been trying to keep it hush, hush, hoping they would work it all out before their friends found out. But it's only gotten worse. Lisa recently asked Charles to pack a bag and leave the house. Lisa felt this was best. It was too stressful having him in the house and she could tell all the tension was affecting the kids.
So what did Cassanova Charles do? Old habits die hard, and Charles can't seem to stay away from the ladies. If you recall, he was a big time player for a large part of their relationship, before they were married. He didn't really settle down until after the children came along. I guess he's gotten restless again. He was staying out later than usual and lying about his whereabouts. Lisa, being hip to his game and getting very suspicious, started looking for the tell tall signs that he was straying. Didn't take her long to find evidence to support her fears.
Here they are leaving church. This is one activity they still do as a family. You know what they say, "The family that prays together, stays together"?
It's going to take a lot of praying and possibly some therapy, to get Lisa back.....AGAIN.
Charles drops Lisa and the kids back at her place. He hints around to maybe them having dinner together. Lisa shoots him down. She would rather hang out with one of her girlfriends. She calls Leslie and they decide to take the kids to McD's.
Lisa gets herself and the kids out of their Sunday clothes, rests for about an hour, then heads out to meet Leslie. She arrives first and settles into one of the back booths..
Not too much longer and Leslie saunters in with Ciana and Joseph. She spots Lisa sitting in the back.
"You okay? Looks like you've been crying". Leslie inquires before taking a seat across from Lisa.
"I've had better days, and I just need to vent!" Lisa can feel the anger towards Charles welling up, and now she's questioning whether meeting at a McDonald's with the kids, was the best decision. She really didn't have plans to discuss her problems, but the minute she opens her mouth, she knows there's no turning back now.
Leslie is confused. Did she miss the memo that Lisa was having problems? "Take a deep breath. Let me go get all the kids something to eat, to keep them entertained, then we'll talk. Are you going to be okay for a few minutes?" Lisa nods while wiping her eyes with a nearby napkin.
Leslie returns pretty quickly with food for everyone. Lisa has calmed down a bit. "So now tell me what has you so upset?" Lisa takes a deep breath, exhales a couple of times, then very slowly starts talking about the nightmare she's been living the last three months. Leslie sits there the whole time with her mouth open. She's never personally dealt with a cheating husband, but she's heard her fair share of stories. She's never sure really what to say. "Why didn't you tell us? You shouldn't have to go through this alone. Do you know what you're going to do?" All of a sudden Leslie has a million questions. Are you going to legally separate? Is divorce likely? Are you guys going to counseling? And the list goes on and on. By the end of the conversation Lisa's head is spinning and she remembers why she had kept all this to herself. She wasn't ready to answer the hard questions. It was so much easier to stay in pretend mode, and pretend that none of this craziness had ever happened. Before they leave the restaurant, Lisa asks that Leslie not share any of this with the other girls. She needs a little more time to figure out what she's going to do.
P.S. All of these are recycled pictures.
OMG why Leslie and Charles that's not good these were one of my favorite family that's very bad hopfuly they'll find a solution it will not be nice if they divorce because they have kids. I'm very sorry I didn't ask about you when you were at the hospital I was checking you blog everyday and I dont find new stories that was weird anyways hopefuly you will feel so much better dear vanessa.
ReplyDeletejassica joe - It's a sticky situation because of the kids. We probably should have seen this coming, though. It will be interesting to see what decision she makes. I am home from the hospital and feeling much better.
DeleteMy choice would be D-I-V-O-R-C-E. i ain't got time for the pain, the shame, or the promise of an STD. No indeed. 'Course there are children and that complicates things. And Lisa might not "believe in" divorce. (I see it more as self-preservation; somewhere along the line, Cassanova Charles is going to open up a case of bad meat. I wouldn't want to suffer the repercussions of his trifling ways.)
ReplyDeleteI commend you on doing an excellent job in that first photo - recycled or not - that shows Charles just oozing jive-time-adulterer. He looks so self-satisfied in that photo. Shaking head. Tsk,tsk.
D7ana - Well I heard that. I wonder if he used protection. I think that irritates me so much when someone steps out on their partner and don't care enough to use some type of protection. He does look a little smarmy in that first picture.
DeleteLOL, yeah, I have no mercy on two-timers. Hello, what you do behind my back does affect me, buster, cause you might pick a little something extra. Bring that back to me? Protection isn't always 100% so even if he did use it - ha ha, Mr, Considerate and all - it might not help. That's why I say "Stray? Keep on going and don't turn back."
DeleteJust me though ;-)
DBG has some good comments regarding sharing the situation with others. Sad though to think that any friend would be pleased at such an affair. Also, if a man cheats on one woman, he'll cheat on another. It's how he's wired.
Okay, getting my hands off my hips and tucking my elbows in, lol. Thanks for sharing this sad but realistic story. Every couple can't be Rod and Danielle.
Yay, glad to hear you're doing better.
My heart goes out to Lisa....especially since she has these two little kids. I suggest counseling for the sake of the kids. Otherwise, I am with D7ana, divorce his trifling #@%s! He has been a player for a while, so it will be hard for him to stop. It's too late to say that she never should have married him. Nice photo story as always!
ReplyDeleteI hope you are feeling better.
Georgia Girl - There are a lot of great co-parents out there. They may have to focus on being that. You are probably right that she never should have married him. in the first place. As Maya Angelou used to say, "When a person shows you who they are, believe them." Charles showed her in the beginning he was no good. It will be interesting to see if they can work this all out.
DeleteSo many people try to stay together for the kids but many times it's better for a kid to have two happy environments instead of one miserable one.
ReplyDeleteMuff - I agree. So if parents are going to stay together and work it out, they have to make the effort to make the environment a healthy and happy one.
DeleteVanessa, I'm glad you are feeling better.
ReplyDeleteIt looks like you have problems with your dolls' names again. I think you meant Lisa, not Leslie:
"Leslie can feel the anger towards Charles welling up, and now she's questioning whether meeting at a McDonald's with the kids, was the best decision".
"Leslie nods while wiping her eyes with a nearby napkin".
Dukasha - Thanks. I will fix that. The first time it happened I had no excuse. This time I was drugged up in my hospital bed, determined to get the story finished and posted before being discharged. You won't believe how many times I fell asleep in the middle of typing a sentence. I would wake up and there would be 20 or more of the same letter because my finger was in the down position on the keyboard. I probably should you waited to post it today, but you know me, Ms. Overachiever trying to get it all done. LOL! Thanks again.
DeleteHello from Spain: in my country, "The family that prays together stays together" is also said. Charles is a womanizer. Sports players always have many girls around. Great MacDonald. Very real. Keep in touch
ReplyDeleteMarta - I think it's a great saying and more families should take it into consideration. Charles needs to grow up and start being a responsible adult.
DeleteI think I missed the memo, too. Lisa is good at keeping her personal business to herself, which in most cases, is where it needs to be kept. Confiding in friends or so-called friends can often be detrimental especially when the friends are undercover haters and would be thrilled to see what has appeared to be a happy life not so happy. Some so-called friends might be interested in Charles themselves. You just never know.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure they will work things out and do the right thing.
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PS Your storytelling is so phenomenal that you don't even need new pictures to create new, juicy stories. You're good girl... you're good.
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dbg - You are so right about keeping your business to yourself when it comes to relationships. Most of the advice given doesn't have the couple's best interest at heart.
DeleteP.S. - Thanks!
Scandalous!!
ReplyDeletemrscarissa - Hello dear. Happy to see a comment from you. Hope you and the family are doing well.
DeleteBonjour Vanessa !
ReplyDeleteMerci pour le gentil commentaire sur Youtube.
I hope you are in better condition for your health ! As always, you make beautiful pictures ! See you soon !
Shasarignis - Bonjour, mon amie. Every day my health is getting better.
DeleteThere's a big difference between praying together and just going to church to make it look like everything is OK. And in my experience, it is the couples that genuinely pray for and are committed to each other that stay together. However, it looks like tough times ahead for Lisa and Charles, no matter what ultimately happens. Glad to hear you are getting better.
ReplyDeleteCarrickters - You are very right. Couples within the church often times have bigger problems than those outside the church. Why are relationships so hard?
DeleteMy mobility is better but I need to eat more so I can gain more energy. The hospital food was horrible and I'm still trying to recover.
Great story. I hate to see women go through this. The outcome really is 50/50. Some women stay and some leave.
ReplyDeleteKenya - I wonder what I would do? It really sucks because there's a great chance it will happen again, if you stay with the person, or if you move to a new person. Maybe I'm just a little cynical.
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